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‘Don’t Be a Victim’ Series: Romance Scams Led to $143 Million in Stolen Money

Simona Blanda was looking online for Mr. Right, but instead, she wound up with both a broken heart and a broken bank account.
Blanda was a victim of a so-called romance scam, which last year duped victims out of $143 million nationwide, according to the Federal Trade Commission. In Blanda’s case, she ended up $25,000 in debt.
Blanda thought she found her perfect match on a dating website that connects people to members of the Military. “I thought, ‘Well, Military. They’re secure. They can offer you security. They’re, you know, down to earth guys,'” Blanda said.
Soon, the supposed overseas soldier’s gifts and words wooed her, and their conversations moved from the dating site to messaging apps. That’s when he started asking for money for all types of things, including funds to get back into the U.S.
Blanda, head over heels, ended up in the financial hole before realizing she was getting scammed.
Rob D’Ovidio, a cybercrime professor at Drexel University, said there are a few ways you can keep yourself from falling for a romance scam:

  • Never send money to someone.
  • Scrutinize your match’s profile.
  • Be leery if your match doesn’t want to meet you in the physical world.
  • Use reverse image search tools to check if the picture of the person you’re communicating with is being used under different names. Google’s reverse image search function could help.

Source:  NBC Philadelphia

Dating & romance

Scammers take advantage of people looking for romantic partners, often via dating websites, apps or social media by pretending to be prospective companions. They play on emotional triggers to get you to provide money, gifts or personal details.

How this scam works

Dating and romance scams often take place through online dating websites, but scammers may also use social media or email to make contact. They have even been known to telephone their victims as a first introduction. These scams are also known as ‘catfishing’.

Scammers typically create fake online profiles designed to lure you in. They may use a fictional name, or falsely take on the identities of real, trusted people such as military personnel, aid workers or professionals working abroad.

Dating and romance scammers will express strong emotions for you in a relatively short period of time and will suggest you move the relationship away from the website to a more private channel, such as phone, email or instant messaging. They often claim to be from Australia or another western country, but traveling or working overseas.

Scammers will go to great lengths to gain your interest and trust, such as showering you with loving words, sharing ‘personal information’ and even sending you gifts. They may take months to build what may feel like the romance of a lifetime and may even pretend to book flights to visit you, but never actually come.

Once they have gained your trust and your defenses are down, they will ask you (either subtly or directly) for money, gifts or your banking/credit card details. They may also ask you to send pictures or videos of yourself, possibly of an intimate nature.

Often the scammer will pretend to need the money for some sort of personal emergency. For example, they may claim to have a severely ill family member who requires immediate medical attention such as an expensive operation, or they may claim financial hardship due to an unfortunate run of bad luck such as a failed business or mugging in the street.  The scammer may also claim they want to travel to visit you, but cannot afford it unless you are able to lend them money to cover flights or other travel expenses.

Sometimes the scammer will send you valuable items such as laptop computers and mobile phones and ask you to resend them somewhere. They will invent some reason why they need you to send the goods but this is just a way for them to cover up their criminal activity.  Alternatively, they may ask you to buy the goods yourself and send them somewhere. You might even be asked to accept money into your bank account and then transfer it to someone else.

Warning – the above scenarios are very likely to be forms of money laundering which is a criminal offense. Never agree to transfer money for someone else.

Sometimes the scammer will tell you about a large amount of money or gold they need to transfer out of their country and offer you a share of it. They will tell you they need your money to cover administrative fees or taxes.

Dating and romance scammers can also pose a risk to your personal safety as they are often part of international criminal networks. Scammers may attempt to lure their victims overseas, putting you in dangerous situations that can have tragic consequences.

Regardless of how you are scammed, you could end up losing a lot of money. Online dating and romance scams cheat Australians out of millions every year. The money you send to scammers is almost always impossible to recover and, in addition, you may feel long-lasting emotional betrayal at the hands of someone you thought loved you.

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